I, with a deeper instinct,
choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who
does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or
innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.
(Anais Nin)
Women and
sex
Until the latter part of the 20th Century, women were treated
in a patronising manner by the patriarchal cultures that had dominated for
thousands of years.
Little attention was paid to what
women wanted.
It is important for men to consider what their partner wants, to listen
to their needs and to fulfil their desires.
Sex can be a mutually satisfying experience if both parties take
pleasure in making the other person happy.
Women are stimulated by physical appearance in the same way that men are
but often other factors are considered as well: romance, character,
behaviour, integrity, emotion and humour.
Inner worth
There is a
tremendous cultural pressure for women to conform to fashion expectations in
modern society; and this is continually being reinforced by mass media.
Taoism is concerned with the way/the how of things, and believes
that how you are matters more than how you look.
Strategy
There is a tai chi strategy: use
your opponent's weapons against him.
If wearing certain clothes or behaving in a particular way makes a man
pliant and responsive, this predictable outcome empowers the woman to exert
influence more effectively.
The real you
It is better to be liked for who you are rather than because
you are pretty or dress well.
Looks can fade and infatuations pass with time.
Clothes are just clothes, make-up is just make-up.
Sex is a means of finding out what gives you pleasure, a way of becoming
closer to somebody that you care about.
But it is not the whole world. Only you can find out who you really are.
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