Shame would kill these people if anyone heard them speak a true word.

(Songs of Mirabai)
 

Being receptive

One of the biggest impediments facing non-taoists is receptivity.
Most people are closed-minded.
Whilst it is easy to say that you are open-minded, how receptive are you?

Being willing to welcome the new is a crucial skill in tai chi and a fundamental requirement in taoist sex.
Fear is the result of your mind attempting to calculate possible outcomes.
If something is new, you lack the information to determine what is going to happen, so you may become tense.

This anxiety is unhealthy.

Taoism encourages people to go with the flow, to move with the experience rather than try to control it.
In tai chi we train melee in order to show that you cannot control every situation.


Self discovery

In taoist sex it is important to discover what turns you on.
People are encouraged by society to conform and be respectable.
This is another example of fear.
You can never hope to please everyone.
To even try is impossibly futile.
In an intimate relationship it is essential to be completely candid.

The taoist sexual practices require you to indulge your fantasies, to find out what really works for you.
If that means playing games, dressing-up, surrendering your illusion of control - then do it.
Let go of your preconceptions.
Until you are willing to invest in loss, you cannot hope to make progress.
Memory, knowledge and experience have their place but they are also impediments to discovery.

Taoists advocate being utterly curious, unshackling the restrictions you have imposed and stepping into the darkness of the unknown.

Revulsion

There are some things that you may never want to do sexually. That is fine too.
We are all different, and some things just do not appeal.
As receptive as we may want to be, you must always be realistic.

If your partner has interests that you do not share, be considerate but tactful.

The consequence of saying no could lead to problems in your relationship but at least you know why.
There is more to a relationship than sex, so it is always better to be honest with one another.

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