Meditation is thus
not removed from tradition as understood in the East.
Even as hatha yoga postures can be acts of meditation,
the same is true of shooting an arrow from a bow
or wedging and centering clay. In subtle ways, the mind
negates the mind, requiring one to be a disciple of a deep tradition
- to partake, in other words, of the true meaning of discipline.
The true self is not the clamouring, wilful ego;
it is more like the zen ideal of being totally absorbed
in whatever one does, whether chopping wood or forming clay.
(Kenneth Beittel)
Uncomfortable
Many people are very uncomfortable with the idea of physical
contact.
They keep their distance from others and bristle whenever contact is
made.
This is a psychological condition rather than physical.
The person is not at peace within.
Tactile
Humans are tactile by nature, we rely on our sense of touch
to an extent that beggars belief.
Withdrawing from physical contact runs contrary to nature.
You must embrace touch, not avoid it.
Other primates are perfectly comfortable with their bodies; it is the
human mind that spoils things.
Sensation
Our sense of touch can be refined to an incredible degree.
It is not our nerves that change, but the brains ability to interpret the
information and respond to it.
Awareness grows and we become conscious of subtle layers of sensation that
formerly went unnoticed.
Touch roots us in reality; it is tangible - your sense of being is verified
through contact.
Texture
Texture is exciting.
People forget how things feel - they are in such a rush that it is taken for
granted.
Sex is the ideal forum for the exploration of texture.
You should never start sex naked; there is nothing erotic about nudity.
Begin dressed instead, and let your fingers feel the body through the fabric -
experience the fabric itself; coarse or smooth, loose or figure-hugging.
Then slowly delve within, feeling the different textures of skin; the curves and
the lengths of body.
It is like opening a gift.
Massage
Work your hands all over your partners body.
Remember that you can experience touch with every part of your body, so do not
overly rely on the hands.
The lips are extremely sensitive, as is the tongue.
Casual
Casual contact throughout the day can create a growing sexual frisson
between two people.
Each touch, each brush and graze slowly escalates the tension.
Allow it to build.
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