Life is growth.
If we stop growing, technically and spiritually,
we are as good as dead.
(Ueshiba)
Sensitivity
Listening is the key to sensitivity.
Unless we are prepared to set-aside our own thoughts and listen
carefully to what the other person wants it is difficult to make
progress.
To listen well also requires us not to judge.
We may not share the same values and interests as
somebody else, but this does not mean that we should ignore them.
In our culture it is easy to feel sad and alone. Making time for someone is very important.
Your partner may want to open-up and
share their deepest intimacies with you.
It is essential that you make them feel that you are receptive and can cope with
the responsibility.
Warmth
Whilst listening is a positive action, it only has merit if you are
genuine.
Being phoney or indifferent is pointless and insulting.
People can tell if you are really interested or not.
Warmth and sincerity are key qualities in taoism.
If you do not feel comfortable when somebody opens up to you, you should say so.
Friendship
Sensitivity to another person demonstrates your respect for
them.
It is easy to be a friend when nothing is required of you but a different matter
when they really need you.
You may not feel supportive or comfortable listening to another person's
problems but the experience could prove rewarding for you both.
What may feel like a major problem to somebody else could seem quite
straightforward to you.
It may be easy to solve.
Being there for somebody when they feel vulnerable or scared is very important
and shows strength of character.
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