2. Implicate yourself in every interpretation.
(Andrew Boyd)
Deconstruction
Andrew Boyd's excellent book
Life's Little Deconstruction Book offers a wry take on the conceits and
arrogance of modern culture.
It humorously challenges the notion of trends and fashionable ideas, and is
a fabulous read:
5. Need what recently didn't exist.
(Andrew Boyd)
23. Debt-finance immediate gratification.
(Andrew Boyd)
46. Shop as though money were a consensual hallucination.
(Andrew Boyd)
81. Cultivate decade-by-decade nostalgia.
(Andrew Boyd)
97. Pass judgement without criteria.
(Andrew Boyd)
139.
Continue the tradition of breaking with tradition.
(Andrew Boyd)
140. Break with the tradition of breaking with tradition.
(Andrew Boyd)
164. Reset your biological clock.
(Andrew Boyd)
182. Complicate the self-evident.
(Andrew Boyd)
197. Accessorise your rebellion.
(Andrew Boyd)
200. Make fine distinctions about things that don't matter.
(Andrew Boyd)
223. Imagine you're a nomadic, desiring machine, without limits.
(Andrew Boyd)
Taken from Andrew Boyd's website:
We're all seeking
that special person who is right for us. But if you've been through enough
relationships, you begin to suspect there's no right person, just different
flavours of wrong.
Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out
partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of
living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn't until you finally
run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems - the ones that
make you truly who you are - that we're ready to find a lifelong mate. Only
then do you finally know what you're looking for.
You're looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the
right wrong person -someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, "This is the
problem I want to have."
I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
(Andrew Boyd)
It is important, if you grew up in a dysfunctional family, to take time
to reflect on the competitive edge it has given you. People from happy,
harmonious homes may feel healthy and well-adjusted, but they're fixed on
one family model which they try to emulate the rest of their lives.
If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, however, you may be deeply
damaged, but you've acquired a broad repertoire of negative models to
outgrow. As you go about your adult life, you should be thankful to your
parents: they have given you the kind of education that happy children,
through no fault of their own, never receive.
My parents taught me everything I need to unlearn.
(Andrew Boyd)
Many
of us have set out on the path of enlightenment. We long for a release of
selfhood in some kind of mystical union with all things. But that moment of
epiphany - when we finally see the whole pattern and sense our place in the
cosmic web - can be a crushing experience from which we never fully recover.
Compassion hurts. When you feel connected to everything, you also feel
responsible for everything. You can not turn away. Your destiny is bound to
the destinies of others. You must either learn to carry the Universe or be
crushed by it. You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty
enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors.
To seek enlightenment is to seek annihilation, rebirth, and the taking up of
burdens. You must come prepared to touch and be touched by each and every
thing in heaven and hell.
I am One with the Universe and it hurts.
(Andrew Boyd)
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