Sit quietly and listen to the voice
of your mind.
Do you like the words it speaks?
(Buddha)
Games
Watch single people out at night and you notice a very distinct tone of
appearance.
The men are clean-shaven, freshly-showered, hair styled, and wearing
their 'coolest' outfit.
Women have skimpier clothes on, legs showing, make-up and hair carefully
sculpted.
Single people are broadcasting a range of sexual signifiers - visual
clues and nuances of body language that suggest availability.
Combined with this, chemicals are being released that are intended to
arouse and excite.
Aftershave and perfume are artificial attempts to replicate what already
occurs naturally, and their odours add to the heady sexual display.
Single people make an effort to flirt, to look
exciting and sexy, to suggest their sexuality without seeming too easy and
available.
It is a natural healthy game designed to attract a sexual partner.
Lazy
Established couples can be a serious contrast with single
people.
Couples often dress the same and treat one another almost like brother and
sister.
Now that the single person has found and succeeded in keeping their mate, they
become complacent and lazy.
This is a major cause of separation amongst couples.
People lose interest in exciting their partner.
They take them for granted.
Sexual attraction fades and apathy sets-in.
The couple find one another boring.
This is a sign of being too close.
It is important to remember that your partner is a completely separate person to
you.
Single people make an effort to be sexually exciting and will look very
stimulating to a person who is bored with their own relationship.
Infidelity
People in stale relationships often become attracted to other people in stale
relationships and both parties begin the flirting they remembered from being
single.
This excites them.
It feels risqué and stimulating.
It also feels healthy and good.
It may not be the answer, but it does highlight a problem with your life.
Your life
Taoism is concerned with the quality of life we experience.
If you are not in a nourishing fun, sexy relationship - ask yourself
why?
It may be that you are being taken for granted, or it may be you
who is taking your partner for granted...
You do not have to cheat on your partner to have a good life nor is sex
everything.
However, if you are unhappy there is probably a reason for it.
Enjoying one another
Some couples never
lose that sense of being single and enjoy a fun, flirtatious relationship.
By remaining sexy and not taking one another for granted, the
relationship grows as they grow.
Couples that have fun together, stay together.
You can party, dance, walk, eat, watch films, join creative classes or do
spontaneous things just because you both feel like it.
Nothing stays the same in life, so we must learn to move with what is happening.
Change and adaptation are key concerns in tai chi; the relationship must grow as
you grow.
Shared experiences will bring you closer and time apart will allow you to
breathe...
Re-discover the fun!
This website details a variety of relationship-related topics that
you can enjoy or be offended by.
How you respond is totally up to you.
It offers ways to stimulate your relationship - poetry, romance, humour and
fantasy.
There aren't any answers in life, just choices; if you want to have fun, you
can.
Page created 8 June 2001