One discovers as well that anger was not what one had originally thought. It is a collection of different events. There is, for instance, an aspect of clarity, of brilliance, that is at the very core of anger and is not yet malevolent. Indeed, at the very source of destructive emotions there is something that is not yet harmful.
(Matthieu Ricard)
Awkward
The notion of 'awkwardness' is complex; it can pertain
to a variety of different things.
A person can be physically uncoordinated.
They may be physically restricted.
Their disposition may be conflictive or stubborn.
How does this relate to sex?
Emotional harmony
Emotional temperament can affect the experience of sex
considerably.
Getting along means that both people feel safe and comfortable with one
another.
This can lead to a natural relaxing of barriers and a desire to open up.
Disharmony
Being in harmony with your partner can be good but it is also like an
ocean that never experiences a storm.
There is a fundamental lack.
Taoism does not see balance as being the same as calm; you are not working
toward an unending condition of blissful serenity.
It encourages the individual to be human and to explore what it means to be
human.
Humans feel: we are happy, sad, elated, depressed, morose, joyful - and to be
truly alive, these emotions need to be explored and expressed.
Emotionally awkward
An
emotionally awkward person builds a psychological wall around themselves and
refuses to let anyone inside.
They may smile and be friendly but this is really just a front.
Inwardly, they are petrified of intimacy and do not want anyone to come inside
their wall.
To enjoy sex fully, this wall must crumble and the person needs to loosen up and
share their feelings.
Grumpy
Some
people are grumpy.
This may be a character trait for them but it can often be a low-key form of
provocation.
If your partner seems grumpy, it is not necessarily a refusal.
They may want to stir up some emotional unrest and see what transpires.
This is actually quite a healthy act; cleaning out the emotional cobwebs can
help a person to feel relaxed and alive.
Play along and see what happens...
Physically awkward
Your
bed may seem like the best place to have sex but it is also pretty boring.
Sometimes it is far more fun to have sex in places and positions that may not be
particularly comfortable.
Japanese sex manuals and the Karma Sutra advocate a variety of positions that
put the body into strange situations.
Being restricted and confined challenges you to be far more creative.
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